Disability and asexual ?

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Disability and asexual ?

Postby PiF » 09 Feb 2016, 04:36

Firstly My point out of the way. I consider a disability as a physical one or a mental one i.e. brain damage. etc...I personally do not consider mental health a disability but more mental health is disabilitating which is something quite different

With that in mind ....We do not often see those with a physical disability or a brain condition appearing as asexuals. it's probably one of the least obvious groups within asexuality but there must be some

The last Asexual person I knew with a disability was a great friend in aven who sadly passed away at 21...Redpandacyborg

It's with that in mind I wonder if we have any asexuals with a disability and how the both interact and the impact...if any..on day to day life??

I think often we can under value this very small but important group within asexuality

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Re: Disability and asexual ?

Postby KAGU143 » 10 Feb 2016, 08:48

I personally know of one person who I would consider to have a physical disability, and I think she would agree, but I don't think she's a member here (if so, she isn't active) so I don't want to name her. She is/was quite active on AVEN and on some of the Facebook pages for asexuals. She doesn't walk around waving a disabled flag or anything like that, but I've met her and she's definitely not faking it.
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Re: Disability and asexual ?

Postby PiF » 10 Feb 2016, 09:24

I mentioned it as it's one of the few groups that rarely gets mentioned in Asexuality but should be mentioned more.

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Re: Disability and asexual ?

Postby CatBunny » 19 Feb 2016, 17:21

I guess technically I'm mentally disabled, although haven't relapsed in 8 years so i'm not fully disabled. I think I mentioned in an earlier post that bipolar causes sex obsession, which sucks for people who are recovering or still sick. I came across a post of someone asexual and bipolar and they said it was hell for them.

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Re: Disability and asexual ?

Postby Ettina » 13 Sep 2016, 14:59

I'm autistic and aromantic asexual. Asexuality seems to be overrepresented in the autism spectrum, especially among autistic women.
In some ways it's easier for an autistic person who's also asexual - I don't have to try to figure out the dating game. It's really confusing and frustrating for a lot of autistic sexuals looking for partners.
But on the other hand, there's some intersectionality that bothers me. There's a stereotype that disabled people aren't sexual beings, and many disability rights people, in combatting that stereotype, end up saying very anti-asexual things. Meanwhile, some asexuals are so concerned about making the point that asexuality isn't something *wrong* with a person, that they end up being ableist. (Just because I'm disabled doesn't mean that the way I am is wrong. I'm no more concerned about my autism than my asexuality, they're both just what makes me me.)

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Re: Disability and asexual ?

Postby CatBunny » 13 Sep 2016, 15:31

Ettina wrote: Meanwhile, some asexuals are so concerned about making the point that asexuality isn't something *wrong* with a person, that they end up being ableist. (Just because I'm disabled doesn't mean that the way I am is wrong. I'm no more concerned about my autism than my asexuality, they're both just what makes me me.)

Asexuality isn't a problem, a disability is though. It's not something wanted, it's not something you need, it ruins your functioning, It's a health problem one has to learn to deal with and life would be better without it. I would sell my goddam soul to get rid of my bipolar and dyslexia.
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Re: Disability and asexual ?

Postby TheGuvnorsMoll » 14 Sep 2016, 00:44

I have Asperger's Syndrome and dyspraxia.
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